Three Spheres of Love

Introduction

Man is made of three parts –spirit soul and body. The most important part is his spirit, the most obvious part is his body and the most neglected part in love is his soul.

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Physical Love

Much of our love is simply physical. Your body needs physical food. Where there is true love physical food is included. I love you will not work when you are hungry. A man who loves his family will provide for them (I Timothy 5:8).

Other necessary physical provision according to the Lord include food and cloth. The atmosphere will not lovely with unpaid bills and no necessities.However,  God is able to provide all of this (Matthew 6:25-34).

Much of what the world sings as love is physical lust. It is that love that uses and dumps. It is that love that does not last and can easily change. It is temporary, always ends in sorrow and has no commitment.

True physical love is found in the context of marriage it does not just include sex but most importantly it includes a commitment to ones partner and the taking of responsibility of children that are brought up in a marriage.

Here are questions that will help you understand and evaluate yourself.

1.        What are you doing to make sure there is always food in the house?

2.    Are you over due on your rent?

3.    Are you over due on your water bill?

4.     Are you over due on your light bill?

5.    Are cloths worn-out?

6.    Have you taken more than a year without buying new cloths?

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Spiritual Love

Spiritual Love here refers that love that flows from your spirit. The spirit is the most important part of man because it is seed of your motive, intentions and desire. The genuineness of your love comes from this place. True love is sincere and in deeds and not mere words.

Many love among boys and girls in hypocritical because it just wants to get what it desires. It motives is wrong, the person may smile at you but when you leave it will mock you. The greatest question in love is, “what is the motive of the action?” There is a hunger in everyone’s heart to be sure that his loves really love him sincerely.

Here are some questions that can help you examine this area of you love

1.      What can you sacrifice for your love one?

2.     What is your motive of being good to your spouse?

3.     Do you sincerely love your love your love one?

4.     If there is marriage after life will you marry your love one?

5.     Is there an area you are pretending or covering up form spouse?

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Soulish Love

The third and most neglected love is the Soulish love. The word for soul in the Bible is the word literally translated psyche. It refers to the mind, emotions and thoughts.. This is friendly love.  This love is thoughtful and wonderful. It thinks about the one it loves. It puts such a one in the equation of things. It consults with such a one before it does things. A friends slap is better than an enemy's kiss.

It is most emphasized before marriage and the most neglected love in marriage. A little self examination will do one some good I am sure.

1.      How many decisions did you take today in consultation with your spouse?

2.     Are there decisions that you think are either too big or too small to involve your spouse?

3.     When returning home today did you remember to get something for your spouse?

4.     When was the last time you went out for an outing with your spouse?

5.     When was the last time you told your spouse that you love him or her?

6.     What are things that your spouse enjoys that you love simply because you value your spouse?

7.     Do you cherish your spouse because you value the Lord?

8.     The way you are behaving to your spouse now if that was the way you behave before marriage, “would he have married you?”

Conclusion

Love must be sincere and complete. The physical, spiritual and soul must feel love. Most of the problems in Christian marriages can be trace to soulish. We have stop befriending our spouses after marriage. What made us special to them is no longer seen. What we need is to get the Lord involve. Let us ask him sincerely and constantly how to love our spouses and he will help us. You can constantly pray this prayer. “Lord, I do not know how to love my spouse. Help me to see things the way you see them. Help to be sincere. Above all help me to follow your part in this marriage, Holy Spirit bring everything in my life in obedience to Christ in Jesus name, amen.”